Archive for the ‘Women’ Category

I recently went back to my semi-natural light hair after almost 2 years of jet black. While my whole family (and most of my friends) enjoy the new “lighter side of Courtney,” I cannot help but miss my dark locks. I am not sure if it was real or imagined, but I always felt this certain air of mystery about myself with black hair. While dark hair has its downsides — light roots made me look like I was balding and forget about wearing all black and not being considered “goth” — it really was my favorite hair color of all (and I have been MANY colors).

Now that I am back to blonde, I feel less, well, attractive. It is as if I blend in now, rather than stand out. This is not to say that all the girls I know are blonde, but that there is nothing “WOW” about my blonde locks. My hair is very much a statement piece for me and I have done everything from pixie to extensions to bleach blonde, fire engine red and jet black. My hair is part of my personality and every time I transform it, my identity seems to transform with it. I had much more confidence with dark hair, but now I seem to have lost it.

I have a friend who totally rocks her blonde — she is extremely attractive, athletic and very out going. She is not ditzy by any means and has this amazing aura about her that is only complimented by her beautiful blonde hair. I could never imagine her with any other shade of hair — not even a darker blonde… her hair color really does fit her. I think maybe that my dark locks fit me more.

I have had a few people (not just my blondes) tell me that blonde is more attractive and that guys totally love blondes. I’m not so sure I agree with that. I quickly thought of 5 current hotties and only of one them is blonde: Angelina Jolie, Eva Mendes, Megan Fox (vom!), Beyonce and Marissa Miller (my fave Angel!). But is that just me? To see if I was right, I went and looked at all of the recent “Hottie” lists to see what the predominant hair color was and, SURPRISE: blondes no longer reign supreme!

Victoria’s Secret named Olivia Wilde “Sexiest Actress” on it’s “What is Sexy?” list. My twin (when I had dark hair), Katy Perry, was named Maxim’s #1 Hottie and, while FHM picked Marissa Miller for its top spot, #2 and #3 were brunettes (Megan Fox and K-Stew, respectively and can I add a VOMIT!?!)

Now, I am in no way hating on blondes. There will forever be iconic blondes: Marilyn, Barbie, Twiggy, Elle Woods… and some of my favorite women are blondes: Heidi, Britney, Blake… and but I am thinking that blondes need to hand over the crown for a little while.

Also, I think I need to make a hair appointment…

(NOTE: And let me also say that this really has nothing to do with a lack of attention from men, it has to do with my own self-confidence and opinion of myself. I felt much more comfortable as a brunette and I was more assertive and more likely to talk to total strangers.  I loved the “exotic” look my dark hair gave me and I played it up.  The last few times I have gone out, I have noticed that I have become this scared little girl again. It needs to change and I really feel that my hair color helps me.)


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They say nothing lasts forever; dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.

Carrie Bradshaw

Let Me Borrow That Top – Kelly
California Girls – The Beach Boys
I Walk the Line – Johnny Cash
Seasons of Love – Rent
New York Girls – Morningwood
Alright – Supergrass
With A Little Help From My Friends – The Beatles
A Public Affair – Jessica Simpson
Party in the USA – Miley Cyrus
My Generation – The Who
Float On – Modest Mouse
Family – Dar Williams
Perfect Day – Hoku
Only the Good Die Young – Billy Joel
Put Your Records On – Corinne Bailey Rae
Joy to the World – Three Dog Night
America – Simon and Garfunkel
Lean On Me – Bill Withers
No Scrubs – TLC
Hey Baby – DJ Ortiz
Girl – Destiny’s Child
Umbrella – Rihanna f. Jay-Z
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun – Cyndi Lauper
Holiday in Spain – Counting Crows
I’ll Stand By You – The Pretenders
You Get Me – Michelle Branch
Beautiful – Christina Aguilera
Forever Young – Rod Stewart
You’ll Be In My Heart – Phil Collins
Goodbye Earl – Dixie Chicks
Ladies’ Night – Missy Elliott, Lil Kim, Left Eye & Angie Martinez
Saturday Night Divas – Spice Girls
Just Call My Name – James Taylor
I Will Remember You – Sarah McLachlan
Baba O’Riley – The Who
Song For A Friend – Jason Mraz
The Promise – Tracy Chapman

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She Wolf

I have been a selfish being all my life, in practice, though not in principle.

Jane Austen

I am dedicating this first playlist to the most important person in my life – ME!

Please, Please, Please, Let Me Get What I Want This Time – The Smiths
Play With Fire – The Rolling Stones
Be OK – Ingrid Michaelson
Let It Be – Carol Woods (originally by the Beatles)
World Spins Madly On – The Weepies
Tangled Up In Me – Skye Sweetnam
Boots & Boys – Ke$ha
Killer Queen – Queen
Colorful – Rocco DeLuca f. the Burden
Rush – Aly & A.J.
Life Goes On – The Beatles
Come Monday – Jimmy Buffett
Wild Flowers – Tom Petty
Faster Kill Pussy Cat – Paul Oakenfeld f. Brittany Murphy
The Little Things – Danny Elfman (from the “Wanted” soundtrack)
Boys, boys, boys – Lady Gaga
Extraordinary – Liz Phair
Only the Good Die Young – Billy Joel
Come Clean – Hilary Duff
Autobiography – Ashlee Simpson
As Cool As I Am – Dar Williams
I Don’t Wanna Be – Gavin DeGraw
Full of Grace – Sarah McLachlan
Extraordinary Machine – Fiona Apple
32 Flavors – Alana Davis
Fireflies – Owl City
Happier – Guster
Not Ready to Make Nice – Dixie Chicks
The Climb – Miley Cyrus
Bubble Toes – Jack Johnson
It’s Amazing – Jem
Breakaway – Kelly Clarkson
Closer to Fine – Indigo Girls
I’m Like a Bird – Nelly Furtado
When I Grow Up – The Pussycat Dolls
It’s Only Life – Kate Voegele
Desperado – The Eagles
Boston – Augustana
Life is Wonderful – Jason Mraz
Change Your Mind – Sister Hazel
Drops of Jupiter – Train
In the Waiting Line – Zero 7
Stuck In a Moment – U2
Don’t Look Back in Anger – Oasis
One of These Things First – Nick Drake
Comfortably Numb – Pink Floyd
A Long December – Counting Crows
You Can’t Always Get What You Want – The Rolling Stones
Gold Digger – Kanye West (KIDDING, KIDDING!!!!)

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I have just finished reading “Commited” by Elizabeth Gilbert.

For those unfamiliar with the book and/or the author, I will give you a quick synopsis. 

Elizabeth Gilbert is a 30-something writer who, after traveling the world (which she discusses her previous memoir, “Eat, Pray, Love”) and rediscovering herself, falls in love again.  She and her partner, Felipe, have already been through terrible divorces and never want to marry again.  But, thanks to the Department of Homeland Security, they are forced into marriage.  During their exile, Gilbert spends timing researching marriage, something she fears she is doomed to fail again.  She mixes socio-historical information, family history, and stories from her travels in order to simplify this complex “institution.”

Unfortunately, I was not as pleased with “Commited” as I was with “Eat, Pray, Love.”  I felt as though she embellished and plain made up things in order to make a good story.  Also, I did not like that she claims to be of the same mold as the women in her family.  I do not doubt that she adores her mother and grandmother, but she is hardly as selfless and giving as they were.  After all, she walked away from her first marriage because she was unhappy.  She will now pay her ex royalties forever because she just wanted it to all go away, rather than fight for what was truly hers.  Also, she spent an entire YEAR “finding herself” in Italy, India and Bali. Not really something the women in her family would have, let alone could have, ever done.

But that is not really the point of my rant.

As disappointing as her novel was, it has seriously made me reconsider how much I really want to get married.

WHY do I want to get married so much?

What is it I hope to accomplish by doing so?

A friend of Gilbert’s, said that she just longed to feel chosen.  That getting married was a public affirmation that you are special and that someone has chosen YOU, above everyone else, to spend forever with.

And I think I agree with her.

But that’s all I have right now… all I know is I want to rethink my ideas on marriage and “happily ever after.”

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